Who Has Time To Play?

Who Has Time To Play?

Jul 27, 2021 | Featured, Leader, Sourced™ Retreat

Who Has Time to Play?

By Olivia Florian

 

It’s so easy to be swept in the momentum of the thinking mind and our to-do lists. But studies have shown how our work time suffers when we neglect downtime, creativity and play.

Have you ever wondered why it feels so difficult sometimes to find joy and playfulness in your life?

I certainly have.

We live in a culture that overvalues our left brain, the rational mind and relegates the emotions to something to leave outside the workplace, something to be controlled and suppressed.

This is also the culture of hard work, pushing through, and survival mode.

As I’m writing I can feel the hard work, pushing through energy activated in me. I’m feeling that this is such a serious topic that I should think a bit more about how to formulate myself, my ideas. That excess of seriousness turns to constriction and my creativity wanes. 

And as I am in the experiment of letting my creative writing find it’s expression and flow, I also remind myself that this post is about play and wouldn’t be as potent if I didn’t invite myself to be in just that energy of play.

You may be objecting “who has the time to play, really?” I certainly know that voice in myself. And the same voice continues saying “that’s not what will make a business go round”. Though I want to challenge this and invite us to look at it more closely.

The energy of play feels light, alive, receptive without taking everything on. It’s an open door to creativity, no expectations, just exploring.

We don’t need to be in a tug of war between right and left brain. They have both their place. And it is ok to let go of control and let the fingers do their thing on the keyboard. Yes I must admit that this doesn’t feel structured anymore. But how can I invite more play in my writing if I try to figure out a plan while thoroughly weigh each word.

So what if play IS what will allow you to be SUSTAINABLE in your business? What if this is an essential energy to invite in our life?

But isn’t play useless and isn’t it selfish to take time for just yourself when there is so much to do and other’s needing you? 

I want to you ask: “What is play?”

I will not here look at the definition in the dictionary though I feel really tempted to and drawn to do that. I might do that a bit later.

But first I want to turn inward and tune into how play feels in my body, in my being.

When I tune into the energy of play, I feel a smile, an amusement. I decide the rules, follow my joy, I feel curious about how it will turn out, I am open to try things differently and I’m less attached to the outcome than to the good feeling along the way. 

Play says “what if I do so?” “Can I use this? I have never tried that before”…

So what if play IS what will allow you to be SUSTAINABLE in your business? What if this is an essential energy to invite in our life?

And to find more joy and fulfillment in life, refocusing more on enjoying the process itself rather than achieving a specific outcome is a key ingredient.

When I focus too much on the outcome even playing board games loses its qualities of lightness and joy and when winning is all that matters there is a stress, a pressure that comes in to win, to prove that I am smarter, stronger. Not so fun anymore.

I’ve been there a lot. And it really struck me when I observed how bad my son was feeling as he didn’t win a game when he was younger (5 to 10y old). I could feel how he took it very personally, making it mean something about his value and abilities rather than something to be taken lightly for the sake of enjoying our time together. 

I came to realize that actually the only reason I played games with my kids or my family was as a way to have a good time together. So nowadays when I’m playing with my son now 15y old and when the game consistently doesn’t really work out and one of us cannot place its pieces, we look at each other with a mischievous glint in the eyes and I say “of course we can push these pieces this way to put this one in here”.

In mutual consent we twist the rules to make the game more fun and we no longer care about who finished first to put its own pieces into place but make a sport to try to achieve together to place all the pieces available. So much more fun and a feeling of complicity, playing on our own terms.

Let’s come back now to the definition of play as stated in the dictionary:

Play: verb

engage in activity for enjoyment and recreation rather than a serious or practical purpose.

“Rather than a serious or practical purpose”. That’s exactly where it usually becomes tricky for me to prioritize and allow myself to play more – and it’s still a work in progress! Can you relate?

Because in my upbringing, the culture I’ve grown into and still am in some ways today is SERIOUS and values PRACTICAL PURPOSE.

And one of my shadow expressions, according to Genekeys, is SERIOUSNESS and for me being seen as frivolous has felt threatening. Much less so today and still, I can feel that first reaction where I try to justify why I do what I do, showing how useful and serious it is so that no one can accuse me of being frivolous, not serious.

Being seen as less than serious, as frivolous or lazy has felt threatening because of the fear of not being accepted and loved by others who are living according to the hard work paradigm. This made it very tricky for me to feel good despite the lifestyle I had started to create for me as I had left my corporate job and built up my skills and my business, adapting the schedule of the days to my needs rather to conform to external standards about when to work, eat, replenish. 

Being seen as less than serious, as frivolous or lazy has felt threatening because of the fear of not being accepted and loved by others who are living according to the hard work paradigm.

It also played out on my journey of expansion of my artist side – from constriction to a discovery of a multifaceted expression – more about that in a coming post.

So all these rules for fitting in have been like boxes that no longer serve me and it has been a long journey of deconstruction and finding a new dance between structure and flow. A dance to be reinvented day after day

Can you see how accessing more of the energy of play – enjoying the process, daring to try out new ways, inviting more lightness will make a difference in your business or work? 

Let’s explore more of that together! Book your Vision Review Call here!

Olivia Florian
Creative Evolutionary Catalyst

Hi, I’m Olivia Florian: artist, coach, recovering engineer. I guide people to embrace and unleash their authentic creative expression, recognizing the perfection of who they are for their calling, with their inner Creative child as their ally. I’m inviting you on a journey developing your authentic voice, your unique self-expression, more embodied so you can thrive professionally and in your life, unapologetically yourself. I am French, based in Sweden, and work with clients worldwide.

 

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Two Approaches to Group Coaching Programs

Two Approaches to Group Coaching Programs

Jul 21, 2021 | Featured

Two Approaches to Group Coaching Programs
By Darla LeDoux, Founder of Sourced™ and Author of the books Shift The Field and Retreat and Grow Rich

 

Welcome to this conversation about the two schools of thought, when it comes to group coaching programs. Are you ready?

Many of my clients are magical, transformational human beings who also bring a lot of expertise to their work. Maybe you have a background in a certain modality or a certain area like health and wellness, or relationships, or sexuality or business, etc.

They really want to take their knowledge and transformational skills, and put that together into a group program. Something that is accessible for a lot of people to be able to purchase financially, and also leverages their time in a way that they are showing up once and able to impact a lot of different people.

 I’m guessing if you’re here, you probably relate to that. What happens a lot of times is people get into business and they see this happening. There’s a lot of marketing around how to create a course, how to offer courses, how to create group programs. A lot of people teach this, right? And yet, a lot of people who follow really good advice about this, and it doesn’t work. I’ve seen this happen so often.

And quite honestly, my very first group that I wanted to launch was a total flop there were like, no leads, no clicks, nothing, nothing happened. And I was so surprised. And yet really, there were a lot of very clear reasons that I see now why it went that way. So when you have this desire in your heart to work with groups, and particularly if you’re doing transformational work, which is our specialty at Sourced, group work is so potent for transformation, because a lot of times as a participant, we can see ourselves in someone else in the group, or they will think to ask the question, we never asked.

group work is so potent for transformation, because a lot of times as a participant, we can see ourselves in someone else in the group, or they will think to ask the question, we never asked.

Okay, so there are two schools of thought: the school of thought of jumping in and creating a group program from nothing when you have no you know, history in your business and no email list and no sales experience. Not a good idea. Okay, I’ll just say that across the board. So how do you get there? Where do you invest your time and energy and how do you build?

So there is one school of thought, which is build a big audience, create a lot of small bite sized offers where people can get to know like and trust you. And then eventually you can offer them a higher investment offer. And eventually you can offer them a higher investment offer, right? So it’s like starting small, building slowly over time.

The other school of thought is: don’t mess with any kind of low ticket or courses or anything like that. Start directly with high end high touch one-to-one service, coaching, consulting, that you offer in an individual sales call and invite someone to work with you and invest at a high level.

Now, I am much more in this camp. Because for me, when I started my business, I needed cash flow, right. So I didn’t have the time and space and energy, or really the interest in know how to build all these little offers and build up to something bigger, I just didn’t have that. But I’m also not built that way.

Where do you invest your time and energy and how do you build?

This was definitely the path for me. Now, each of these has its own unique challenge, right? In this option, you need a big audience, you need to be really good at copy and offers and opt in pages and converting and you need to get in front of a lot of people. So that’s the work here. And that can seem overwhelming, right?

The work on this side is more inner transformational work, both sides, in my opinion, require inner transformational work. But on this side, you’re stepping in without a lot of track record or proven history in this work. And you’re having an intimate conversation with someone and you’re asking them to pay you, right, at a good value. So you can live on, you know, having a handful of clients having 10 clients can pay your bills. And you’re asking them, right, that is intimate.

You’re helping them to see what they need to transform in their life that you can help them with, that’s worth investing in. And these conversations for so many reasons are hard for people. We don’t like to ask for things. We don’t like to talk about money. We don’t like to make the other person uncomfortable. But guess what? To transform, they have to get uncomfortable.

And so there are so many reasons that this is challenging. Therefore people opt for this because it feels safer, right? It’s like I can keep my distance from my audience, and sell these little things. But, again, my school of thought is here, when we’re keeping our distance from our audience, how do we know them super well, right? And how do we really connect with them?

You’re helping them to see what they need to transform in their life that you can help them with, that’s worth investing in. To transform, they have to get uncomfortable.

Now there are people who can help you with this, right? So here, you’re investing in learning your sales skills, transforming your own inner blocks, to intimacy with your clients. So you can have these transformational conversations, this is a lot of the work that we do at Sourced over here. You might be investing in paying people to write the copy and develop the lead pages and the marketing, right. And that’s great. And you can hire really great people who are really good at converting because right, you haven’t worked with clients. So you don’t necessarily really know intimately what they need. So you’ll need some help there.

The issue is, then as they get, you know, higher level, higher level, higher, higher level. Now, eventually you’re going to want to work with them privately, or they’re going to want to work with you privately. And so if whatever your marketing team developed isn’t an energetic match with what you actually want to deliver, eventually, you’re going to bump into some issues over here.

So how do you decide? How do you decide? There’s risks. There’s investment: emotional, energetic, and financial on both sides. How do you choose?

if what your marketing team developed isn’t an energetic match with what you actually want to deliver, eventually, you’re going to bump into some issues over here.

This is where my belief that your relationship to Source, which is your inner knowing, working through you is paramount. This is how you know where you’re being called, and how you are being called to show up. We’re dealing with inspiration on both sides, we’re dealing with resistance on both sides.

The more you can clear your energy field and create this connection with Source where you can ask for and receive your own personal truth in this situation, the easier this is going to be.

When I have a client who comes to me and they say, I really want this group program, I don’t want one-on-one clients, I want to do this, I want to do that. I like to really look, you know, is this a Sourced decision? Because for me, this is an easier path. At least easier path to cash. But we’ve got to look within.

The more you can clear your energy field and create this connection with Source where you can ask for and receive your own personal truth in this situation, the easier this is going to be.

So if you’re evaluating, you know, who do I work with? Who do I hire as a coach and a guide and a teacher? And I want you want to look at which school of thought are they coming from and what really resonates with you and your truth what really resonates with your Truth. We always go to truth first, right? So I’m never pushing someone toward my preference, right? We always go to their truth first.

The more you can go to your Truth first, you can hire the right people coming from the right place who can support exactly what it is you want to do. So get yourself some connection, right?

Let’s bring Source into the way we do business. Let’s bring that to God, Divine guidance in so you can choose the right path to begin with. And don’t do what I did, right, and go right for creating something that I didn’t have the background to really support. And it was crickets. And it wasn’t super fun. But I learned and I love it and I’m happy to share this with you.

What is your experience? Which school of thought are you from? What do you prefer in terms of if you’re a coach and a business coach helping your clients to build their high level practice? Where do you come from?

This is Darla LeDoux with Sourced, and we’ll see you soon!

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My Journey as a Compassion Magician

My Journey as a Compassion Magician

Jul 20, 2021 | Featured, Leader, Sourced™ Retreat

My Journey as a Compassion Magician

By Anna Stephanie Munoz

 

It was March 2020 and something awful hit the planet earth. It started quietly in a small city in China, and it grew out to epic proportions affecting the whole world. From one day to the next, everyone was in lockdown due to a deadly pandemic.

This changed us forever.

What do you think happened with the people in lockdown? Many started languishing, others had crippling anxiety. Everyone’s mental health was affected. Being locked away also meant they had to face whatever was going on in their homes with themselves and with their families (if they were living with someone else).

I realized this magnified the good, the bad and the ugly. All the things you were doing right and from your heart started to move forward extremely fast. But it also happened the opposite, if you were doing things wrong and from the ego, things started fast to shatter—jobs, relationships and companies.

It was really a tough time to all the population on earth, it did not matter if you had money, a job, living in paradise or nothing at all, we all lived the same challenges in our own reality.

What do you think happened with the people in lockdown? Many started languishing, others had crippling anxiety. Everyone’s mental health was affected.

And yet, since the beginning of the outbreak I have always thought that COVID was a blessing. I don’t mean to minimize the horrific death toll or condone the handling of the crisis by any particular government. I do believe, however, that the pandemic did offer us an opportunity to do something rare: stop and ask ourselves, “is this the way I want to live?” 

For me, it felt like the quantum leap we needed to elevate our level of consciousness as humanity. That did not mean the process was going to be smooth and easy… especially if it was being accelerated… on the contrary… It felt like a walk in the park, but Jurassic Park!!!

One of the most beautiful gifts I received during this time was the confirmation that one of my “superpowers” as I called them, is my compassion. And to put it in marketing words, I am a Compassion Magician.

How did I discover this?
If you still do not know what your magic is TAKE THE QUIZ. 

When I was in my process of getting certified as a Sourced Retreat Leader, I discovered that compassion was something inherent in me and that not all the people had it. I thought we all did, but it is not like that at all. Discovering this first was a big shock for me. It was like entering an international conference room and started speaking in Spanish and after several minutes finding out that from 40 people in the room, maybe just 5 more speak my language. They know I am speaking in Spanish, they might understand a few words, but they do not relate to the language.

That is exactly what happened to me. Not everyone magic is Compassion, nor can they truly relate to it.

One of the most beautiful gifts I received during this time was the confirmation that one of my “superpowers” as I called them, is my compassion.

Then there was a second thing I discovered, to be fully sourced and be compassionate from my heart and not out of pity or my ego, I needed to be 100% self-compassionate. Why, you ask?

To fully embrace my magic, it needed to come from my heart, be fully compassionate with myself, and then projecting this compassion towards everyone else—not the other way around.

Do you see the pattern here? DENIAL of what is…

And finally, it hit me. I needed to surrender to what is and embrace my magic to start being self-compassionate and learn from it, so I could start teaching this to my clients.

Sounds simple enough, doesn’t it? But easy? Not in a million years. This is especially true if I am coming from my default and not my sourced energy. Since I absolutely LOVE challenges and working on improving myself, I took this as my healing process during the pandemic.

And you know what? It has been life-changing! I am not going to go into detail of all the things I tried and did no work, I want it to be easier for you than it was for me. So, I am going to tell you the 3 steps you need to do to accelerate the process.

To fully embrace my magic, it needed to come from my heart, be fully compassionate with myself, and then projecting this compassion towards everyone else—not the other way around.

STEP 1 – Own Your Magic

For you to truly live it, first you need to accept it and feel it as an important part of you. Without denying it or trying to “fix” it. There is nothing to fix, this is a superpower you have here woman, embrace it, make it your own, and truly live it from your heart.

You might be asking; how do I do this? You need to understand what it means. Your superpower has a responsibility attached to it and you need to understand how you will show up in the world. As they say… With great power comes great responsibility…

There is nothing to fix, this is a superpower you have here woman, embrace it, make it your own, and truly live it from your heart.

STEP 2 – From Default to Sourced

I believe there are 3 different ways you can do this:

What would be the difference? It depends on the pace and outcomes you want to achieve. If you want to do it by yourself without help and want to take the longer road, then do the first. The book is truly amazing and it will definitely shift your energy, but it is all self-work.

If you already know you want to live your self-compassion from a sourced energy and you want help to shift your energy, I offer you a magic session of 90 minutes so you shift your energy to Sourced and start living from that new energy in your magic.

If you also want not only to work on yourself, but also teach your clients to do this, then get certified with Darla to learn how. Become a Certified Sourced Leader, here you will do your own process with Darla´s guidance, share experiences with the other members, and learn how to do this with your clients.

So, it all depends where you are at the moment and what your priority is right now. The 3 options are great!

Shift the Field is truly amazing and it will definitely shift your energy, but it is all self-work.

STEP 3 – Trial and Error

After shifting your field and being in a Sourced energy with your magic, you need to:

Define what self-compassion means to you.

Define 3 things you will do every day to have self-compassion.

Define 3 ways you can show compassion every day toward others.

Write down 1-3 learnings each day about compassion and self-compassion.

If you keep a diary or a tracker with this you will be living your compassion magic in no time for yourself, family, clients, and community.

I really wish that you live in your compassion magic. Today, with how the world is changing we need more of you living your true magic to help increase the level of consciousness and help humanity to make this quantum leap without so much suffering. We need you! Help us out!

Stephanie Munoz

Transformational Coach

Stephanie believes that many professionals are experiencing high levels of stress and anxiety without recognizing it, leading them to “burnout” or chronic diseases.

With more than 15 years of global corporate experience and on the path of personal development, she helps her clients discover, unleash and exceed their potential.

In this way they begin to manage their stress and anxiety to find clarity, greater balance and wholeness. She helps them enjoy life more and live at their best, as we all deserve to live fully and with purpose.

Connect with Stephanie here. 

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In this 90-minute magic session you will:

– Define where is your energy right now
– Determine a whole new energy where you can move and unblock your limits
– Align to your sourced energy

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Lead Magnets and Marketing with Source

Lead Magnets and Marketing with Source

Jul 14, 2021 | Featured


Lead Magnets and Marketing with Source
By Darla LeDoux, Founder of Sourced™ and Author of the books Shift The Field and Retreat and Grow Rich

 

I want to talk with you about marketing with Source. And what this might look like. How is it different to honor how Source is guiding you, and the way that you market, as opposed to creating your marketing from your head, which we often do, where it’s all Sourced, right?

We’re always learning. But even worse, we look around at what everybody else is doing and decide based on that. We could go even a step further, which is whatever the latest Facebook ad is, you’ve been served up and clicked and whatever that secret magic formula is that that person is offering that you just take it and run with it because it’s there. And they made it sound really, really inviting and juicy and easy and simple. Right?

How is it different to honor how Source is guiding you, and the way that you market, as opposed to creating your marketing from your head?

So what would it look like to market with Source? Well, first, here’s what it’s not. So let’s just take an example of in your business, you need new leads. The way that I teach marketing, I teach that there’s three stages, there’s meet, engage, activate. So you need to meet new clients, you need to engage them like they need to get to know like and trust you and you need to activate them. And so you need a strategy for each of these.

Now, it could be the same strategy, for example, speaking in front of someone else’s audience, means you meet people, you engage them. And if you can make an offer, you also activate them all at the same time, which is great, right? But you need a strategy for each of these.

And so you’re coming from your head and figuring out like, what do you want to do? But what would it look like if you had a Sourced approach to this? If you had a sourced approach to this, what would you want to tune into? Who do I want to serve? Who do I want to serve, but you don’t want to obsess about it, but you want to get a sense of who do I want to serve? In other words, don’t go crazy with the niche, right? It’s just like who I want to serve. Feel into that. Because then you’re going to learn more about your audience as you go.

Use your magic, right? I have a quiz called the Sourced Magic Quiz where you can take the quiz, your Magic, like use it, to tune in and ask your Divine guidance.

Who do I feel inspired to work with? Who am I guided to work with and there’s lots of pathways to this and use your expertise. So there are things that you know, based on your life experience, even if you’re brand new in this particular business, you have an expertise that lets you know who these people are. Maybe you’ve been that person in the past, where you’ve worked with them in some way in corporate or there’s something that you’ve done in a past experience that gives you knowledge and expertise maybe it’s on a on a particular process or certain transformation. So you let that help you to think and feel into who you want to serve. Okay?

The way that I teach marketing, I teach that there’s three stages, there’s meet, engage, activate.

Then you want to ask yourself this question, how do I cultivate within that audience a commitment to the transformation I offer? In other words, how do I help them discover that they want the transformational journey that I like to take people on? How do I help them discover that? How do I help them get committed to actually making a shift in their life that’s going to change everything? That’s the question to ask them and don’t get into the format.

It’s like, what do they need to know to realize or discover that’s going to help them be present to either the impact of the discomfort they’re in? Or the excitement of the desire that they hold to have a different result? How can I help them get present to that, and then and only then you want to look at the strategies and say, okay, which of these are the tactics really, which of these tactics is going to help me to deliver that which of these is going to help me to deliver that?

So as an example, if someone really needs to, let’s say it’s about money in business, okay? Someone really needs to get present to why they want to make more money. Let’s just say that’s something that you help people with. You want to help you want to create something, then you’re going to ask yourself, what tool is that? A quiz? Is it a journal prompt? Is it some kind of video training? Is it a meditation? It you know, what is it – a mini retreat? I do a lot of those experiences. 

That’s going to help them get present to their internal commitment to making more money, because people hold it all the time as like, Oh, I’d love to make more money, but they’re not really present to their commitment. They don’t know why. And they’re not present to what they’re gonna have to give up when they do. So now you can start to say, what tactic, what specific item am I going to create, that helps cultivate that commitment when you don’t do it that way, right? When you’re coming from the other place of saying, Oh, I just saw somewhere, someone said, make a 10 page ebook. That’s the best lead magnet. So I’m going to do that. Okay, what should I write about? Gosh, I’m an expert on all of these different things.

How do I help them get committed to actually making a shift in their life that’s going to change everything?

Let me just pick from the sky, which thing I’m going to write about. And then you write about that. It’s not actually serving the purpose, right, that you and your Source guidance want to serve in this life. And then I see this a lot people end up with a lot of different like random, juicy, fabulous lead magnets, but they’re not actually Sourced. Right, they’re not actually inviting people into the transformation you offer.

Once you get clear, okay, now I know what I need this thing to do, and I’ve chosen my format, then feel free to buy a course or get a download or whatever. Have someone who’s an expert in that who’s done it before. So you can learn the details and get swipe information, like make it easier for yourself feel free. It’s possible that what’s going to come through is you want to create something that’s never been done before. And that’s also great, right?

So feel free to invent a whole new marketing strategy. But again, not just to complicate things, but because your Source guidance has led you there. So I hope you can see the difference.

what tactic, what specific item am I going to create, that helps cultivate that commitment when you don’t do it that way? 

I’d love to know your experience with this.

We love helping people access where Source is guiding them as business owners and taking that kind of more sublime or esoteric information, and merging it with the practical business options to make a business that’s in deep, deep alignment, deep service to your clients and works really, really well for you.

Let us know if there’s anything that you need in this area. I’d love to hear your experience in the comments, like and subscribe and I will see you soon!

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Are You Letting Other People’s Feelings Keep You Invisible?

Are You Letting Other People’s Feelings Keep You Invisible?

Jul 13, 2021 | Featured, Leader, Sourced™ Retreat

Are You Letting Other People’s Feelings Keep You Invisible?

By Gayle Nowak, Visibility Sage and Founder of The Story Stylist

 

Last month I put out a survey asking New Earth entrepreneurs to share your desires and discomforts when it comes to stepping into greater visibility.

The greatest discomfort by far, and the thing keeping many invisible in your business, is a fear that sharing your truth might hurt others.

Here’s the thing.

Inevitably, someone will not like what is true for you. So it can feel safer to silence and suppress your message, your “ask”, your work, and your own view of the world. We all do this to some level, and you may be tempted to respond to that fear with force.

 

it can feel safer to silence and suppress your message, your “ask”, your work, and your own view of the world.

That is ONE approach you can take and sometimes it works. However, in my experience and with my clients, it’s hit or miss because when you constantly ignore and go against your feelings it can lead to greater anxiety and fear, especially if you’ve suffered adverse and traumatic childhood experiences.

One of the most common fears we experience as humans is being seen, and yet most entrepreneurs simultaneously long to be seen because we know in our core that we are here for a purpose. We deeply want to make a difference.

It actually makes sense when you realize that visibility fears often start in childhood, as a result of the times we were made to feel wrong, rejected or different. All of us have experienced this at some level; it’s simply part of being human.

most entrepreneurs long to be seen because we know in our core that we are here for a purpose.

We deeply want to make a difference.

So another approach is to heal these past experiences, releasing fear’s hold on you so that you can feel confident, courageous and excited about being visible.

What I’ve discovered over the last couple of years is that inner child work accelerates that healing, which has a direct impact on your business.

What you learned as a child – either from your family, schooling or media – you took on as truth. And even if it’s no longer or never was true, your inner child continues to carry it around and impact how you think, feel and behave. 

For example, not being seen and heard in childhood shows up as a fear or resistance to fully putting your work out into the world. In other words, being visible.

Worrying about your message, content, programs and prices ties back to worrying about what other people are going to think and feel about what is true for you. In other words, feeling vulnerable.

What you learned as a child – either from your family, schooling or media – you took on as truth.

I invite you to explore how the emotion and energy around being visible shifts for you after reconnecting with your inner child over the next 21 days. There are numerous inner child healing meditations available online to help you.

It may look a little messy at first. You may even cry. That’s actually a good thing because you are releasing emotions and energy you no longer need. Feelings of discomfort, sadness, anger, fear, grief are normal. Feeling nothing is normal. You may even feel joy, happiness and excitement in these sessions. 

It may look a little messy at first. You may even cry. That’s actually a good thing because you are releasing emotions and energy you no longer need.

Keep a special journal for these inner child experiences.
You may want to write down:

  •   What you see, hear, and feel during the session
  •   What your inner child wants and needs at this time
  •   How you would have wanted things to go differently
  •   What, if any, incompletions do you feel you want to take action on now
  •   What you acknowledge, accept, and even appreciate about the actual experience that comes through
  •   How you and your inner child collaborated to re-create a more loving and positive experience

After the 21 days, journal about the impact of turning those negative experiences into positive experiences has had on your heart, your energy, your relationships, and your business.

Your inner child holds incredible wisdom for you and your big mission.

Gayle Nowak

Visibility Sage and Founder of The Story Stylist

Hi, I’m Gayle Nowak, creator of Sage Sensation & The Story Stylist. I help New Earth entrepreneurs with big missions show up & be seen. I create custom retreats, private VIP days, interviews & talks that help you heal your invisibility. I believe the entrepreneurial journey is an inner union journey that opens the door to freedom, abundance & love WHEN you dare to listen to your heart. Let’s get real about the “feels” together so you can show up & shine in your magic.

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Go from FOG to CLARITY

Go from FOG to CLARITY

Jul 7, 2021 | Featured, Leader, Sourced™ Retreat

Go from FOG to CLARITY

By Lorrie Thomas Ross

 

We all experience FOG (Fatigue, Overwhelm, Guilt) at times. It’s part of being human! But we don’t have to stay there. Becoming aware of our emotions is a prerequisite; from there we can decide what to do with them.

 And yes, we get to choose.

 These are the steps I use to guide my clients to help them get past the FOG and move towards CLARITY. It’s important to approach this with a leadership mindset.

The first step is to realize we are ALL leaders – whether we’re working solo, working for someone else, or in the middle of a career change.

Leadership Mindset

The first step is to realize we are ALL leaders – whether we’re working solo, working for someone else, or in the middle of a career change. Being in a leadership mindset changes the way we do things in our homes, with our partners, and in our businesses.

 

Lead with Love

Seeing yourself as a leader is a simple step that shifts perspective and changes the way you do things. Every leader has their own leadership style. If the term “leader” feels a bit bold (it used to sound like being a ruler to me), think of leadership as “leading with love”…love for others, your work, your family, your community, the world…and most importantly, love for yourself.

Living and working on-brand and on-purpose unapologetically is the bridge to get from FOG to CLARITY.

Living and working on-brand and on-purpose unapologetically is the bridge to get from FOG to CLARITY.

CLARITY

Communicating with Confidence. We communicate visually, verbally, and energetically. Step into your unique beauty by communicating confidently. Align your brand, photography, website copy, social media posts, email marketing, texts, and email replies with your personality, authority and style.

Leading with Love and Laughter. Clients, coworkers, life partners, life itself may be unpleasant at times. Let’s face it, life gets messy. I have my share of default FOG “on the verge” moments…then I remember how important it is to be an unapologetic leader. Be honest with yourself (lead with love!), be kind to yourself and remember to laugh more!

Accepting Abundance. There is no better time than now to start believing in receiving! We cannot rise until we are ready to receive (thank you Darla, for that wisdom!). This means valuing your work! We stop giving out discounts when we truly value our work – why settle for crumbs when you can have the whole loaf? Be open to being open!

Think of leadership as “leading with love”…love for others, your work, your family, your community, the world…and most importantly, love for yourself.

Receiving Rest and Restoration. It is SO important to rest – you have to disconnect to reconnect. This was one of my biggest mistakes when I started my business 16 years ago. Success does not have to include stress or burnout. Take regular breaks to get refreshed, increase focus and be creative. The first time I went on retreat, I fell in love with my business again and came back so refreshed and ready to grow. You have to unplug to recharge. Now I take trips every 90 days. Non-negotiable!

Igniting Inspiration. One of the most valuable things you can do as a leader to stay clear is to stay inspired. Do things and create moments for yourself that keep you mentally stimulated, inspired and creative. I like being in nature, looking at art, walking – creating something in the kitchen without a recipe releases my creativity! Inspiration also comes from offering emotional support or encouragement to others, whether in your online community, writing helpful social media posts, or living by example. Understand what inspires you so you can continue to ignite that. Be inspired and live inspired!

One of the most valuable things you can do as a leader to stay clear is to stay inspired. Do things and create moments for yourself that keep you mentally stimulated, inspired and creative.

Taking Time. It’s important to have open blocks of time and not over-schedule ourselves. There’s no way I would have had time to write this if I didn’t! Stop to evaluate if what you are doing is serving you. If not, it’s okay to let it go. Don’t feel obligated (that’s the O in FOG) to do everything or to keep doing things in a way that doesn’t nourish you. I reschedule a lot of things or let them go altogether. Also, schedule things that are important, things like fitness, alone time, hobbies  – whatever it is that feeds and nourishes you.

 

Being Unapologetically YOU. Lead your life in a way is is 100% magically, wonderfully you. Know what you want, own what you want and step into your unique beauty. When I began to own my magic, my life and work transformed instantly. Living on-brand and on-purpose makes us less likely to get into the FOG in the first place.

Seeing yourself as a leader is a simple step that shifts perspective and changes the way you do things.

Do What You Do Best, Hire Others to Do the Rest

Leading unapologetically also means delegating to others so that you can spend more time in your magic. You need a team…a dream team to help you grow. When I coach and support my clients, I find the biggest disconnect in business is often in the delegation, so go ahead and find things you can ask for support with and allow yourself to receive the help.

Bring that leadership mindset into everything you do and see what happens!

Lorrie Thomas Ross

Transformational Marketing Guide and Retreat Leader

Hello! I’m Lorrie Thomas Ross. I’m a transformational guide who helps intentional leaders step into their unique beauty unapologetically – personally and professionally. I live to help women disconnect to reconnect with what they want. My magic helps lovely leaders get clarity to work and live on-brand and on-purpose lives. I am based in Georgia and host my group and VIP 1-1 retreats in stunning Serenbe.

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