Do You Honor Your Magic

Do You Honor Your Magic?
By Darla LeDoux, Founder of Sourced and Author of the books Shift The Field and Retreat and Grow Rich

 

December 8, 2021

Are you honoring your magic?  At Sourced, we help coaches, consultants, creatives, and healers market, sell and deliver deep transformation with their magical gifts. What I have discovered recently is that people don’t know their gifts. 

What is your core gift?

I’m talking about the core gift of who you are as an expression in this world that has been dishonored in the past. This was likely done by a parent or some authority figure who made you feel like that gift was wrong, or bad, or not valuable, and should be hidden away. 

 

It has come up in my own life as well. As you may know, I’m in the process of getting divorced, and someone recommended a book to me called Deeper Dating. When I started reading this book, one of the concepts resonated so immediately and connected to the work I do in so many ways. 

 

The main idea is to look at these core gifts and explore how we are attracting people who can’t see or honor or hold space for these gifts. 

 

I can see this working in my own life and in my clients’ lives.

The main idea is to look at these core gifts and explore how we are attracting people who can’t see or honor or hold space for these gifts. 

Let me give you an example. 

 

Imagine that someone is an amazing healer and an insightful transformational being who has a fundamental gift of deep passion and intense emotional connection to all sorts of things in all types of ways. 

And let’s say this person was raised by someone who couldn’t be with their own intensity of emotion, and therefore that emotion was shamed. 

 

They were taught you shouldn’t cry, don’t be angry, tone it down, you’re too much, etc. That person would begin to shame that part of themselves to the point where they no longer need a parent or an outside source to shame them because they were already doing it for themselves. 

That person would begin to shame that part of themselves to the point where they no longer need a parent or an outside source to shame them because they were already doing it for themselves.

Now they automatically tone down and make those emotions wrong. Over time, their ability to access their emotions becomes obsolete. They don’t even know what they feel anymore because it has been shamed for so long. They’re now in the habit of shutting it down and shaming it themselves. In fact, any time those emotions want to come up, they become too intense, too extreme, and too much. Too much. According to someone else. 

 

They feel afraid, out of control, and they begin to shut it down. Imagine this person getting in a relationship with a partner, a client, or even hiring a mentor, and they have this automatic shaming of their emotions. 

 

They meet the partner, the coach, the team member, who, when they connect, that person can’t be with those emotions either, and they feel like it’s a match. They think, ‘oh, this is meant to be. This is a match.’ 

 

But what it is –  is a comfort zone. It’s this false sense of harmony because they are both in agreement that those emotions should be hidden away.  

But what it is –  is a comfort zone. It’s this false sense of harmony because they are both in agreement that those emotions should be hidden away.  

Now this person has a partner who doesn’t want their intensity and who is going to help them control the intensity of their emotions. Or now they have a mentor who thinks, well, it doesn’t matter how you feel, go take action and leave your feelings out of it. Or then they have clients who have also bought into this story that their emotions should be hidden away. Pretty soon, the whole world agrees that you should hide your core gifts. Can you see how this could be an issue? 

 

Now, maybe that’s not your gift. Maybe your gift is your tenderness or softness. You can love, nurture, and hold things lightly and softly. But you were raised by people who said, toughen up, be strong, get it done, make it happen, pull yourself up by your bootstraps. This gift of softness and gentleness, which by the way, is so needed in the world right now, gets suppressed. It becomes the thing you are ashamed of, the thing you hate.

 

Then you go and match with other people out there, who similarly don’t like that gift in you or can’t be with it, or can’t hold space for it or don’t honor it. And then you think, ‘we’re a match.’ and we can go on in agreement that this gift should be hidden or suppressed. 

Maybe your gift is your tenderness or softness. You can love, nurture, and hold things lightly and softly. But you were raised by people who said, toughen up, be strong, get it done, make it happen, pull yourself up by your bootstraps.

A New Vibration

When you step into the world, especially the world we’re in right now, we are here to usher in a new vibration. That new vibration has to be you in alignment with your soul, with who you are, and who you came here to be. 

 

To hold that vibration, you need to align with your core gifts. You need to honor them first. At times we can look for other people to give us the signal that we have this gift, that we’re okay, and that we’re valuable, but we’ve already surrounded ourselves by people who can’t be with it. That was our old comfort zone. 

 

Then when we grow into a new vibration that aligns more fully with these gifts, and we say I honor and celebrate myself, period. Then, and only then, will we call in vibrational matches for partners, coaches, and clients, etc.

When you step into the world, especially the world we’re in right now, we are here to usher in a new vibration. That new vibration has to be you in alignment with your soul, with who you are, and who you came here to be. 

A shortcut solution is to look for people who have the same gift you have and who can give it back. You can watch and honor the gift in them in such a way that you can’t help but honor and love that gift in you. 

 

So that is my invitation. If you aren’t honoring your magic and aren’t honoring who you came here to be as a soul, which is amazing and beautiful, how can anybody else? 

 

How can you attract clients, affiliate partners, romantic partners, and friends who honor who you truly are? I can see that who I am now, the vibration I’m in, and the vibration I’m stepping into is different from who I was nine years ago when I met my partner. 

I can see that who I am now, the vibration I’m in, and the vibration I’m stepping into is different from who I was nine years ago when I met my partner.

I have chosen to celebrate myself, so my word of the year is “celebrate.” 

 

I have chosen to honor myself and honor my gifts and who I am in the world. It’s of the utmost importance to do that, so we collectively raise the vibration on the planet. 

 

So what’s true for you? What are your gifts? What’s your magic? What is it that you bring to the table? By the way, it’s probably not the first thing that pops to mind because it’s the thing that you think is wrong with you.  

 

You think this gift is bad and should be hidden away. 

 

If you’re feeling drawn to do this level of work, I invite you to join us at Shift the Field Live this February. We will be transforming the energy that gets in the way of you owning and honoring who you are in the world. 

 

You can register now and hold your place for February, and we are going deep. We will teach you how this work will help you market, sell and deliver deep transformation and expand your magic in the world. 

I have chosen to honor myself and honor my gifts and who I am in the world. It’s of the utmost importance to do that, so we collectively raise the vibration on the planet. 

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