Are You Letting Other People’s Feelings Keep You Invisible?

Are You Letting Other People’s Feelings Keep You Invisible?

By Gayle Nowak, Visibility Sage and Founder of The Story Stylist

 

July 13, 2021
Last month I put out a survey asking New Earth entrepreneurs to share your desires and discomforts when it comes to stepping into greater visibility.

The greatest discomfort by far, and the thing keeping many invisible in your business, is a fear that sharing your truth might hurt others.

Here’s the thing.

Inevitably, someone will not like what is true for you. So it can feel safer to silence and suppress your message, your “ask”, your work, and your own view of the world. We all do this to some level, and you may be tempted to respond to that fear with force.

 

it can feel safer to silence and suppress your message, your “ask”, your work, and your own view of the world.

That is ONE approach you can take and sometimes it works. However, in my experience and with my clients, it’s hit or miss because when you constantly ignore and go against your feelings it can lead to greater anxiety and fear, especially if you’ve suffered adverse and traumatic childhood experiences.

One of the most common fears we experience as humans is being seen, and yet most entrepreneurs simultaneously long to be seen because we know in our core that we are here for a purpose. We deeply want to make a difference.

It actually makes sense when you realize that visibility fears often start in childhood, as a result of the times we were made to feel wrong, rejected or different. All of us have experienced this at some level; it’s simply part of being human.

most entrepreneurs long to be seen because we know in our core that we are here for a purpose.

We deeply want to make a difference.

So another approach is to heal these past experiences, releasing fear’s hold on you so that you can feel confident, courageous and excited about being visible.

What I’ve discovered over the last couple of years is that inner child work accelerates that healing, which has a direct impact on your business.

What you learned as a child – either from your family, schooling or media – you took on as truth. And even if it’s no longer or never was true, your inner child continues to carry it around and impact how you think, feel and behave. 

For example, not being seen and heard in childhood shows up as a fear or resistance to fully putting your work out into the world. In other words, being visible.

Worrying about your message, content, programs and prices ties back to worrying about what other people are going to think and feel about what is true for you. In other words, feeling vulnerable.

What you learned as a child – either from your family, schooling or media – you took on as truth.

I invite you to explore how the emotion and energy around being visible shifts for you after reconnecting with your inner child over the next 21 days. There are numerous inner child healing meditations available online to help you.

It may look a little messy at first. You may even cry. That’s actually a good thing because you are releasing emotions and energy you no longer need. Feelings of discomfort, sadness, anger, fear, grief are normal. Feeling nothing is normal. You may even feel joy, happiness and excitement in these sessions. 

It may look a little messy at first. You may even cry. That’s actually a good thing because you are releasing emotions and energy you no longer need.

Keep a special journal for these inner child experiences.
You may want to write down:

  •   What you see, hear, and feel during the session
  •   What your inner child wants and needs at this time
  •   How you would have wanted things to go differently
  •   What, if any, incompletions do you feel you want to take action on now
  •   What you acknowledge, accept, and even appreciate about the actual experience that comes through
  •   How you and your inner child collaborated to re-create a more loving and positive experience

After the 21 days, journal about the impact of turning those negative experiences into positive experiences has had on your heart, your energy, your relationships, and your business.

Your inner child holds incredible wisdom for you and your big mission.

Gayle Nowak

Visibility Sage and Founder of The Story Stylist

Hi, I’m Gayle Nowak, creator of Sage Sensation & The Story Stylist. I help New Earth entrepreneurs with big missions show up & be seen. I create custom retreats, private VIP days, interviews & talks that help you heal your invisibility. I believe the entrepreneurial journey is an inner union journey that opens the door to freedom, abundance & love WHEN you dare to listen to your heart. Let’s get real about the “feels” together so you can show up & shine in your magic.

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