The Old Tired Path

The Old Tired Path

The Old Tired Path
By Darla LeDoux, Founder of Sourced and Author of the books Shift The Field and Retreat and Grow Rich

 

Welcome to my new training series, the Old Tired Path. 

 

What is the Old Tired Path? Why do we use it? What can it do for you in your work with your clients? 

 

I have crowdsourced the most common Old Tired Paths from my clients and will be examining them in this five-part training series. I’m going to break them down for you so you can not only recognize them for yourself, but you can start to recognize them in your clients as well. 

 

A few years ago, I was leading a retreat, and I found myself drawing this two-sided arrow on my flip chart as I was working with a client. I wanted to show my clients and help them see in black and white how their belief system or energy pattern was limiting them from being free to live their lives. 

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I wanted to show my clients and help them see in black and white how their belief system or energy pattern was limiting them from being free to live their lives. 

As I began organically working with this concept, I discovered something super interesting. As I was drawing, I found myself writing what my client said they were trying not to be or judging themselves for on one side. Then we looked at the opposite side and wrote what my client was supposedly striving to be. I now call it the Old Tired Path, and I’ve been teaching and using this tool ever since. 

 

The Old Tired Path is one of the tools I train our Certified Sourced Leaders in. They are certified to use in their work, and I have found it very helpful. We will be working with this concept in several different scenarios in the coming weeks. 

I now call it the Old Tired Path, and I’ve been teaching and using this tool ever since. 

What is the Old Tired Path?

When we try to be something and try not to be something, we are stuck. We are stuck going back and forth from this thing and that thing, and all we can see is the entire world through this filter. This is the Old Tired Path. When we’re on the Old Tired Path, the rest of the world that’s not on that path becomes unavailable to us. When we’re there, we’re limiting the way we live our life.

 

Why Would You Want to Know This? 

At Sourced, we work with coaches, consultants, creatives, and healers to market sell, and deliver deep transformation with their magical gifts. The Old Tired Path is one of the tools we use to help our clients understand the process of transformation.

At Sourced, we work with coaches, consultants, creatives, and healers to market sell, and deliver deep transformation with their magical gifts. The Old Tired Path is one of the tools we use to help our clients understand the process of transformation.

At Sourced, we highlight how our clients with their magic and/or hold space for transformation are not separate from their business model and/or marketing. The way transformation works is the way transformation works.

Our clients come to us with all kinds of tools and modalities. They come to us with everything from EFT tapping, massage, Reiki, to mindset coaching and embodiment work. No matter the modality, how transformation works, and how you guide your client to the truth will be the same.

 

The Old Tired Path is a tool that helps clients see, own, and embrace their truth. This is based on some kind of lie from the past. I call it the Small T Truth. Sometime in the past, something happened, and your client decided to view the world with a particular filter. They continue to go back and forth, from end to end, limiting what was possible for them. 

No matter the modality, how transformation works, and how you guide your client to the truth will be the same.

 

The Old Tired Path is a tool that helps clients see, own, and embrace their truth.

When you design your business to understand where in your model, it is appropriate to help your clients see the truth (or where it is not appropriate), it becomes time to use a tool like this. When you discern and pinpoint what’s really going on with your client’s Small T Truth they once believed, then your client will be so ready, so committed, and won’t be able to wait to see the truth! 

 

That is when it becomes an aha moment. This becomes the moment your client will remember for the rest of their life. They will remember when this thing that was hidden from their view came into view. They will remember when they decided to either let it go or reintegrate it in a whole new way. They will remember the time they were able to finally step off the Old Tired Path and into a whole new world of possibility. 

 

In the coming weeks, I will be sharing specific examples of the Old Tired Path. For now, please think about what might be a filter or a way that you are judging and assessing life repeatedly that might be limiting you?

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My Top Nine Lessons in the Last Nine Months

My Top Nine Lessons in the Last Nine Months

My Top Nine Lessons in the Last Nine Month
By Darla LeDoux, Founder of Sourced and Author of the books Shift The Field and Retreat and Grow Rich

 

It’s been 9 months since I launched my latest book, Shift the Field, and had an event by the same name. Long enough to birth a baby!

(That’s exactly what we did by the way – gave ourselves 9 months between events, a full birthing cycle!)

WOW has my life changed since then.

In honor of birthing a whole new human (ME) along with this birthing cycle, I thought I’d write to you today a bit of reflection on what I’ve learned.

Below you will find my top nine lessons of the last nine months.

  1. Birthing something “big,” like a book or a brand, changes us.

This may feel obvious but I’ll start here. At the start of COVID, I pulled the trigger on the brand I’d been percolating called Sourced. I knew there was a second book in me and it began to form more fully at that time. When I launched it just over 9 months ago, I energetically set something in motion that would not be denied. A new version of me that could hold and carry the mission of this work in a new way. Without knowing it, I set in motion energy that completely changed the landscape of my life.

 

 

  1. The present moment for the win!

However we may be tempted to control the future, the present moment is always where life is happening. It shapes the future, but all we need to know about the future is available in the present moment if we are paying attention. We don’t have to understand it or micromanage the steps, we only need to trust the knowing. Our brain will still want to micromanage! How quickly can you notice this and let it go?

My marriage ended this year. Even though I couldn’t make sense of it logically, the energy in the moment told me everything I needed to know. In Shift the Field I write about the “time stands still moments.” Those moments really are filled with divine knowing, that we choose to call forth or ignore. Trust the moments. Let go of understanding the implications of your knowing.

 

 

  1. Remove the fences.

My dear friend and I each went through similar experiences energetically this year (while vastly different). One of our reflections was about the way these invisible guideposts shape our life (she calls them ‘fences’). Fences can show up as appointments on our calendar that invisibly influence the way we show up in the moment. E.g. “I can’t start that project right now because I am traveling next week.” Or, “I won’t know if I can do X until I know about Y.”

Fences are also societal guidelines for where we “should” be, or what we “should” do. When contemplating the ending of my marriage I became painfully and surprisingly aware that I was operating with all kinds of fences about the age by which we “should” be happily settled down – even though I help people of all ages to create lives based in freedom!!

 

I knew I would miss many things about my former partnership, but I also felt a lightness in being on my own. It only got heavy when I got concerned about how I was measuring up to the invisible fence!

I energetically set something in motion that would not be denied. A new version of me that could hold and carry the mission of this work in a new way. Without knowing it, I set in motion energy that completely changed the landscape of my life.

  1. Goal-setting happens in the field, not the mind.

I really have a knack for envisioning a new future. It is my “recognition magic” for those who have taken the Sourced Magic Quiz, and it’s how I’ve made my way to being a successful entrepreneur. There were particular tools and approaches I used to create outcomes that have lost their allure. As I like to say, I’ve already explored that path thoroughly. Because my prior vision I had for myself and my ex and our life together did not come to pass in reality, I will admit it is currently challenging to envision tangible things. I know this will transform as I continue healing.

That said, the gift in this is that I’ve come to understand that our “goal setting” doesn’t really happen through our vision boards or a vivid description of the life we want (though that is one clear path). It happens in “the field.”

The seed is planted energetically through intention and a receptive relationship with Source. We can allow the “goal to be set” in our beingness and trusting of Source, even without a clear seeing of what is being planted. I know this. I know my path is in motion even though I don’t have a conscious knowing of what it will look like. I know it.

 

 

  1. The Universe is guiding us (aka Source)

Last summer, THE DAY AFTER my ex started her affair (which I only learned months later), I was stung by a bee – ON MY EYE. She and I were on a bike ride. On the ride, she asked me to take her picture, which was unusual. I was usually the one interested in photos. I thought it odd but couldn’t place why. Then the bee sting.

Because I am a believer that everything is Sourced, I got curious. I began to ask myself as I swelled like a balloon (out and also to her), “What is it that I’m not seeing??”

Later when I was given the information I needed to have a clear picture of what was going on, I put the pieces together of the absolutely PERFECT timing of mother nature’s intervention. Because an affair was somehow not in my awareness I didn’t quite get the message, but I was SO CLOSE. Signs guided me through the rest of the summer and fall, I have countless examples, and to a place of deeper knowing.

 

 

  1. What is happening in our life is ALWAYS our divine curriculum.

Now, here is where it gets deep, tricky, and profoundly Sourced. While my human was very mad about what happened (see above), and I still am at times, and it is completely valid if you feel angry on my behalf right now (thank you)… the experience of betrayal was a clear part of my divine curriculum for healing and growth.

The anger and rage that came with the experience were emotional states in my physical being that was ALREADY THERE. The experience of betrayal in the last nine months actually allowed me ACCESS to the betrayal, and accompanying anger and rage, that “little Darla” experienced and buried. As I began to process the experience (with amazing Sourced support), I was able to uncover the previously denied emotional and energetic feelings of betrayal, anger, and rage from childhood events, and heal them at the root.

I had been betrayed countless times as a child by people who were supposed to protect me. Having an experience like this as an adult was inevitable in order for me to allow myself to process those stuffed feelings so I could grow. (Note: this doesn’t excuse the behaviors or negate the impact). What would change if you could see life this way?

the experience of betrayal was a clear part of my divine curriculum for healing and growth.

  1. You can be energetically free and hold accountability at the same time.

I am trusting someone needs to hear this. When someone in our life does something that hurts us, we can be 100% clear with them about the impact on us without letting the energy of what happened to consume us. In fact, it is spiritually right to hold them accountable to the Truth and allow them to experience the consequence of their actions.Anything else is a spiritual bypass.

However, we don’t have to continue to be angry to make sure they know how wrong they were! That only hurts us. (And spiritually nothing is actually wrong).

 

This year I’ve now understood that while my spiritual self can see the beautifully divine curriculum and spiritual growth involved in this journey as perfect, my human self can still move in the energies of hurt and anger.

The most challenging part of healing this year has been navigating these two experiences. My spiritual self wants to be in joy, freedom, and gratitude. My human self has wanted to be punishing.

 

But there is another option: to respond appropriately to the energy. To be clear with my ex that what she did is not OK, and that it hurt me deeply, while also being able to let go internally of feeling angry or resentful, and choose inner freedom. (I’m not 100% perfect at this, but it’s a distinct possibility now!) Being able to hold both things has been a leadership lesson that has trickled into the way I lead my team in a beautiful way.

 

 

  1. The flow of life will support you as you do what you need to for your own inner freedom.

I needed A LOT of time this year for myself and my healing journey. Between betrayal, COVID, divorce, and a surprising home repair, I was significantly less present in my work. I leaned into my team and personal support structures. I opted not to market at the same level I would have in prior years (I canceled an entire partner launch which has been my main strategy for years).

And yet, everything flowed beautifully in our client work, and we magically connected with the clients who want to become more Sourced this year. Do you trust this is available for you? People often defer their own healing or support until they get everything else in order. But life supports your ebbs and flows. In fact, it is NATURE to ebb and flow. Let yourself ebb and trust the flow.

 

 

 

  1. Trust that who you are and what you know is enough!

Having less space in my life for “creating new stuff” has allowed me to really lean into that which I’ve already created. It is good. It is so supportive. It is enough. I know enough. I can show up and hold what I’ve already created with a new audience and know that it will hold them energetically in the most beautiful way.

In what way is that true for you, too?

life supports your ebbs and flows. In fact, it is NATURE to ebb and flow. Let yourself ebb and trust the flow.

And a BONUS #10 for fun:

 

  1. Be Receptive, Heal the War!

As my defenses came down this year, because I was quite simply defenseless against the grief that overtook me, I got to work my muscle of receiving. And, in fact, I would even say, to Point #1 on our list, that birthing the work of Sourced required me to open up to greater receptivity to be this spokesperson.

My (unarticulated) commitment to being receptive also required that I be RECEIVED. I’ve come to believe that receiving and being received were both challenging energies for my ex. As I aligned with the capital T Truth that I Am Received, and I became more and more Receptive, our energies had to part ways.

 

This could have happened peacefully and with awareness had we been two different people. However, the way it happened felt like war. The experience on my end was that “my life blew up.” Now, in many ways, it had to go this way, so I could heal the war within myself that I didn’t know was there. Under my calm exterior was an inner battle – based on my upbringing a part of me felt defenseless against life and in need of protection. I let my ex protect me. She then became the one I needed protection from. Because that was there in the energy between us.

 

As I opened my receptivity to what was (which is not protection energy), my inner war began to loosen its grip. I can now see the places where my inner war, my need for protection against life, had subtly permeated all sorts of things.

 

In our world right now we are very present to the energy of war. In Ukraine. Against COVID. And so much more. What if the best way to shift the energy on the planet from that of war were for each of us to see and acknowledge and validate the war within us? To bear witness to the part of us that feels defenseless and in need of protection. To the part of us that views others as in need of protection and therefore causes us to step into the energy of war.

How can we be truly receptive to all of these parts of ourselves, and others, without resistance so we can transmute the energy of war? To entrain with peace?

 

Do this fiercely loving inner work with yourself and you are also doing it for the world <3

What if the best way to shift the energy on the planet from that of war were for each of us to see and acknowledge and validate the war within us?

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Creating to Avoid vs. Creating to Create

Creating to Avoid vs. Creating to Create

Creating to Avoid vs. Creating to Create
By Darla LeDoux, Founder of Sourced and Author of the books Shift The Field and Retreat and Grow Rich

 

Let’s play in the new paradigm, shall we?

Today, I’m going to cover three energetic principles that allow you to create in your business in such a way that you and your clients are invited to play in a whole paradigm and playground. How does that sound?

I recently hosted my signature event, Shift the Field Live, and I want to paint a picture for you. One of the conversations we had was about the idea of where you create from.

 

Where do you create from?

Creating to Avoid vs. Creating To Create
We always create from one of two places. When you create to avoid, you use a methodology or a survival pattern that you have used in the past that worked because you survived. You use that same pattern to control (or try to control) an outcome in the future. This comes from what I like to call default energy.

 

When we create to create, it comes from a place of love and exists in the present moment, based on what we feel drawn to create at that moment. I want you to pause for a second and think about the following questions:

 

How much of your life is created to avoid, and how much of your life is created to create?

This year, I had to take a hard look at that concept with my coach Danielle Hyman, who distinguished this for me. She helped me see how much I was creating to avoid the outcome I didn’t want, instead of creating to create, from the moment based on trusting the energy and trusting what arises.

 

I dove deep into my personal experience in the last year of learning to trust the moment’s energy and surrendering to my ability to do that. It’s changed everything for me.

I dove deep into my personal experience in the last year of learning to trust the moment’s energy and surrendering to my ability to do that.

It’s changed everything for me.

Create in the Present Moment
First, creating to create happens in the present moment. There’s no thinking about, there’s no figuring out, there’s no strategizing, there’s none of that. It happens in the present moment and in connection with Source.

 

Source is when we allow ourselves to hear our inner-knowing, our truth, our heart, or where we are called to now and in the present moment.

 

We cannot figure out eighteen steps ahead and be creating to create. Creating to create has to happen in the present moment. As soon as we allow our brain to manipulate (or try to manipulate) the universe to give us what we want, we shut down the creative energy.

Source is when we allow ourselves to hear our inner-knowing, our truth, our heart, or where we are called to now and in the present moment.

Innovation Happens With & Through People
Second, innovation, or creating something unique, distinct, and of your energy signature, happens with and through other people.

When we decide to create something brilliant and new in our business, maybe designing a new retreat or a new piece of content, we tend to go off on our own with our flip chart and our markers and try to figure it out alone. So many people end up getting stuck trying to get everything right. The right program, the right content, the right message, and everything before they launch.

 

 

That is coming from a place of creating to avoid. We are creating to avoid putting something out there that doesn’t work, creating to avoid being embarrassed, creating to avoid getting it wrong and creating to avoid doing something that’s not amazing.

 

 

As soon as we are coming from that place, we are shutting down the energy. When we are with people, we are in the present moment.

 

We show up as our best when we are in service of other people, so if you have other people involved in your creation process, the product will come from a place of creating to create. In fact, I developed this teaching last week when I was in service and around other people at Shift the Field Live.

It’s not about getting it all perfect. It’s an organic process that we are creating and building a business that serves other humans, and we create it organically by actually serving other humans.

 

Then we can reflect on how did that work? What did I learn? What did I not learn?

 

When you are in creating to avoid, that feels very threatening, and that’s why so many people get stuck or get in a place where they are presenting other people’s ideas or presenting the safe version of what Source really would want them to talk about if they were creating to create.

It’s not about getting it all perfect. It’s an organic process that we are creating and building a business that serves other humans, and we create it organically by actually serving other humans.

Step Into a New Energy/Playground
When we create to create, we are stepping into new energy or a new playground. When we are creating to avoid, it is a well-worn path. We think one end of the path looks different from the other end of the path, but the truth is, it’s all the same energy.

 

 

When we are creating to avoid, we are literally doing the same thing over and over again. We are in Groundhog Day!

 

To innovate or create something new, we have to step off of this path and into a whole new energetic playground. Our logical mind will never get us there. This process of stepping off the old tired path of:

 

 

I’m enough – I’m not enough.
There’s an abundance of time – There’s a scarcity of time.

Stepping off that path and onto a whole new energetic paradigm is what we teach at Sourced when we train coaches, consultants, creators, and healers within our Certified Sourced Leader Program.

We train people in one-on-one relationships and group settings. We teach people how to help their clients get off this line of old or default energy into a whole new paradigm and Sourced playground where they get to create for the sake and love of it and watch magnetic results come in.

 

 

This week only, we are enrolling in our Certified Sourced Leader Program if you are leaning into this. If you want to be in the daily practice of creating to create, you are invited. Especially if you’re going to integrate these three energetic principles into your everyday life and, ultimately, your clients, you are invited.

 

Applications close Saturday night. Interviews will be held next week, and there is no commitment to apply.

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Why Is It So Hard to Get Out of Our Heads?

Why Is It So Hard to Get Out of Our Heads?

Why Is It So Hard to Get Out of Our Heads?
By Darla LeDoux, Founder of Sourced and Author of the books Shift The Field and Retreat and Grow Rich

 

Why is it so hard for us to get out of our heads? 

 

It is hard to get out of our heads when we don’t have an alternative. Being in your head and thinking about all the possible ways something can go can be crazy-making. We strategize and analyze because we can talk ourselves in complete circles without coming to a real solution when we are in our heads. 

 

I have clients all the time, say, “Oh, I’m so in my head about this” (actually, my clients know how to get out of their head, which I’m going to tell you), but from friends and colleagues or people that I know, I hear it a lot. 

 

I’m so in my head about this. 

 

That is the norm because that’s how we have been trained in our culture. Think about it, figure it out, and have a good reason for why you’re making a decision. We can get caught in this loop. We’re going to stay there unless we have an alternative. We will stay there unless we have another consistent, reliable way of making decisions that will allow us to be out of our heads and be in a receptive mode to something else.

 

If you’ve been following my channel or you know me, you probably know that “something else” is Source energy. 

Source energy – God’s Spirit, the universe, the collective consciousness, collective energy, the divine coming through you for your unique purpose here on Earth. 

Source energy – God’s Spirit, the universe, the collective consciousness, collective energy, the divine coming through you for your unique purpose here on Earth. That’s how I think about Source. Source energy is available to us all the time. The issue is we often have defaults that block or deflect, and a lot of times, this pops into our heads. Our logical rationale, trying to figure things out, often conflicts with hearing what we know is coming straight from Source. 

 

You’re probably wondering – how do I hear from Source? I realize that simply telling you what it is isn’t all that helpful. This is why I developed the Sourced Magic Quiz. I created this quiz specifically for transformational entrepreneurs, people who deliver services and transformation with it, to help understand the information they’re receiving. That can help them move their clients along and get them to the truth faster. 

 

It is a good tool for anyone to explore how their intuition or inner-knowing works. In other words, how Source (which wants the greatest and highest good for you) is available to guide you at all times. 

 

Let’s explore how this can work. 

I created the sourced Magic quiz specifically for transformational entrepreneurs, people who deliver services and transformation with it, to help understand the information they’re receiving.

The first is Sensation Magic. If you are a Sensation Magician, your inner-knowing comes through physical sensations in your body. For Sensation Magicians, being in your head is particularly dangerous because you’re not generally aware of what you’re feeling in your body when you’re in your head. 

 

This magic is one of my most potent gifts. It’s also one I was oblivious to for such a long time. I didn’t even realize I had it because I had left my body as a survival mechanism when I was younger. My head was my friend. I’m a chemical engineer, and I got a lot of kudos for being smart. 

 

My body was pretty much irrelevant. It was like this thing to take to the gym, and that was about it. Learning my intuition speaks to me through my body, symptoms, twitches, or noticing energy stuck in a certain place was epic. I can even sense when people I’m interacting with are feeling stuck or have stuck energy. And I know that I know that I know. So now, as I make decisions, I can tune in to what my body has to say about it. I have a whole dictionary of signals from my body and what they mean. I was completely cut off from knowing I had that magic for ages. 

 

If you’re a Sensation Magician, and your body knows, you can start to trust that your body will give you everything you need to know to make a decision.

Source (which wants the greatest and highest good for you) is available to guide you at all times. 

The second type of magic is Vibration magic. A Vibration Magician feels the energy of something. They might feel it in their physical body, it could be a neighbor to sensation, or they might hear it. They hear the vibration of the words or the tone of voice someone’s using. Some people can see energy. A Vibration Magician is very aware of the energy patterns of something. If you’re a Vibration Magician, you pick up on invisible information, but you may dismiss it when you are in your head. 

 

Alternatively, you can empower and trust your energy or what it is that you’re aware of about another person’s vibration, or the vibration of a situation, or a conversation, etc. When you get out of your head and into the vibration of the matter, you can trust that for a Vibration Magician; the vibration doesn’t lie. Sometimes, logic can confuse you, and you may ignore what you intuitively know vibrationally about something. 

 

The third type is Compassion Magic. Compassion Magic has to do with your heart, love, nurturing, and caring energy. A Compassion Magician also has very fierce boundaries. So what gets in gets loved up. 

 

For Compassion Magicians, you want to get out of your head and into your heart. You want to look for where the love is. Who’s able to receive this love? If there’s a decision you’re making or a situation you are looking at, ask yourself, where is my heart pulled? You might also think I have so much love and compassion. I am just a love bug. Where is the place where my love is most able to be received? That’s the place I’m going to lean in. 

Source energy is available to us all the time.

The fourth type of magic is Recognition magic. Recognition magic is seeing the patterns. A Recognition Magician can hear something over here and see something over there, and they can put the pieces together and know exactly what’s going on, even though no one explained it to them. You can see how these things that seem disparate connect.

A Recognition Magician may also see signs, something may happen, and they get a “click” of that is important, that matters. They tend to see trends and be aware of things in the future that many people are not yet aware of. 

 

You’re thinking about the things, but it’s knowing. You know all of these senses are working together so quickly that it’s not a logical thought. 

 

What sometimes happens for Recognition Magicians is they can try to back it up with logic or explain themselves when really, they simply know. If you’re a Recognition Magician, it’s okay to explain, but first anchor the knowing. Please write it down and get clear about what you know to be true. Understand that you’re probably years ahead of where most people are, so don’t expect everybody to get it. Be comfortable deciding according to what’s true for you, even if people don’t get it. 

I encourage you to go take the Sourced Magic Quiz, at sourceexperienced.com/quiz to find out what your primary magic is.

The fifth magic is Expansion magic. The Expansion Magician can see what’s possible. They come from the firm belief that the universe is abundant, and Mother Earth has more than enough, and if we operate as if that’s true, things will work themselves out. 

 

The opposite of an Expansion Magician is someone who lives in fear of scarcity, trying to hoard resources, etc. As Expansion Magicians, we get in our head because we’re analyzing how will I survive this? What’s the best path that’s going to give me the most stuff? That might seem like abundance, but it’s scarcity. If you’re in true abundance, you’re not analyzing any of that. You’re saying, what feels expansive here? What feels abundant to me? Where do I sense that the energy can flow in the most abundance? Then move in that direction. 

 

The final one is Expression magic. Expression magic is channeling source energy through you. If you are an Expression Magician, and you find yourself in your head, trying to figure it out, how do you get out of your way and allow truth to come through? 

 

Often, an Expression Magician needs to speak to someone and allow it to flow until it comes through. Then it’s like, oh, that’s the truth. So you might need to have a partner to process with, or obviously, I recommend having a coach so that you can hear when the truth comes through. 

 

Expression Magicians can often express themselves in various ways. So it could be through writing or music or art in some way. Perhaps you create a piece of art that helps you know the answer. When you get out of your head and onto a canvas, or out in nature, or in some way, you allow the energy to flow. 

ask yourself, how does my inner knowing work? How does my magic work? How can I lean in more in such a way that my head’s not needing to take over because I’m in total trust of Source working through me?

You might relate to a few of these. I encourage you to go take the Sourced Magic Quiz, at sourceexperienced.com/quiz to find out what your primary magic is. You can also opt-in for training to learn which magic you honed as a child, which one you hid as a child, and why. You can have a lot of fun with this. 

 

If you take anything away from this conversation, don’t say, “I have to get out of my head, I’m in my head so much.” That doesn’t work. That’s shaming yourself and how you’re programmed. Instead, ask yourself, how does my inner knowing work? How does my magic work? How can I lean in more in such a way that my head’s not needing to take over because I’m in total trust of Source working through me?

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Don’t Let Them Scare You with Logic

Don’t Let Them Scare You with Logic

Don’t Let Them Scare You with Logic
By Darla LeDoux, Founder of Sourced and Author of the books Shift The Field and Retreat and Grow Rich

 

Before I scare you away with this title, I want to establish that I am a “recovering engineer.” My first degree and career was as a chemical engineer. I worked in a Fortune 20 company and had an amazing time at the start of my career. 

 

And here I am now with a video called “Don’t Let Them Scare You with Logic.” 

 

First of all, I’m so grateful for my upbringing as an engineer, my schooling, my initial career, and the training I received. I learned to think logically and problem solve. Creating strategy was the most important skill that I learned and supports me in my business today. 

 

On the flip side, many of my intuitive abilities supported me as an engineer, believe it or not. There were ways where I would intuitively know how the pieces fit together, and then I could set up a test to prove it. 

 

The reason I’m sharing this with you is that I often see that people that don’t have the background I do, and who are transformational leaders, coaches, consultants, healers, or creatives of some sort, get intimidated or insecure when someone brings numbers and logic into a conversation. 

On the flip side, many of my intuitive abilities supported me as an engineer, believe it or not. There were ways where I would intuitively know how the pieces fit together.

But here’s the deal. It is possible to create a logical argument for something supported by data that isn’t true, right, or accurate. 

 

I saw this all the time inside my work as an engineer, where someone would run an experiment, but before running the experiment, the question was, what do we want this data to prove? Then they would design the experiment to prove what they wanted to prove because they were already attached to a certain outcome, and they wanted the data to support it. 

 

This happens all the time, all over the place.

 

From a transformational standpoint, we know that when we look for something, we’re likely to find it. When we expect our business to thrive, it’s likely to thrive. Similarly, when someone would like to prove something is a certain way, they’re going to find the logic, or the data, to prove that case.

we know that when we look for something, we’re likely to find it. When we expect our business to thrive, it’s likely to thrive. Similarly, when someone would like to prove something is a certain way, they’re going to find the logic, or the data, to prove that case.

Let’s get practical.

 

Have you ever been in an argument with a loved one, where all of a sudden you find yourself vehemently arguing for something that you don’t care about at all? 

 

This type of argument is what happens when logic is running the show. We might think “if this, then that,” on and on, and pretty soon, we’re effectively arguing for something that’s not true for us or that we don’t care about.

you go out in the world and start interacting with people and sharing your vision. And all of a sudden, people start giving you logical reasons why that won’t work. 

Let’s take an example of where this might show up in your business. 

 

Let’s say you have spent time and energy honing your Sourced connection. You understand how your inner-knowing works. You’ve spent time sitting with your soul, asking your soul the questions that you want to know the answer for your unique path, what you’re here to do, as a unique, highly divine intuitive being. 

 

You’ve concluded what you’d like to express in the world based on what’s coming to you, what lights you up, and what would be possible. 

 

Then you go out in the world and start interacting with people and sharing your vision. And all of a sudden, people start giving you logical reasons why that won’t work. 

Being receptive is a huge part of being Sourced.

You don’t want to be unreceptive. Being receptive is a huge part of being Sourced. You want to be willing to receive the feedback without shutting it out. There may be a nugget in what they’re sharing that is exactly what you needed to hear. Source may be trying to get you a piece of information. 

 

What you don’t want to do is assume that they’re right and defer to their knowing over your Sourced knowing. Right. Don’t let them scare you with their logic.

 

Logically, what they are sharing with you might make perfect sense to you. Yes, it’s logical, but it’s not Sourced. 

 

Maybe that information and that logic help and support your case. Maybe it gives you something that’s going to turn you three degrees and will make all the difference. So allow it.

 

But you don’t have to take it on like it’s true. Being receptive does not mean we keep it. We can be receptive and let it flow right on by, saying thank you for sharing. 

Your knowing, believing yourself, and believing your truth increases your ability to receive from Source in all manner of ways. If someone else’s logic or rationality is going to sway you off of your Sourced path, you won’t be able to access your right next step.

you don’t want to assume that they’re right and defer to their knowing over your Sourced knowing. 

Don’t let them scare you with their logic.

Allow this to sink in. When someone’s logic comes in and pops you out of your Sourced knowing and up into your head, and gets you a little bit confused and off track, soon you’ll be agreeing with them, even though what they’re saying isn’t aligned with your truth. 

 

This can happen so easily.

 

In summary, people can prove whatever case they want. Simply because it’s logically sound, doesn’t make it true. Trust your Sourced knowing over the input of others. Be willing to receive it, keep what feels right, and let the rest flow on through! 

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What is Your Structure Level?

What is Your Structure Level?

What is Your Structure Level?
By Darla LeDoux, Founder of Sourced and Author of the books Shift The Field and Retreat and Grow Rich

 

What level of structure do you need to feel secure in your business? I love nothing more than supporting transformational leaders and service-based entrepreneurs to bring structure to the way they work in their business. 

 

Having a structure that supports how you hold your work and your clients in that work allows you to relax and sink into the work while showing up more powerfully and potently. 

 

Each of us has a different degree of structure that we need to feel comfortable, confident, and secure in putting our work out there and moving forward. The issue is that we’re often not aware of how much structure we need or don’t need. 

Have a structure that supports how you hold your work and your clients in a way that allows you to relax and sink into the work while showing up more powerfully and potently.

I think about my client, Helen, who came to one of my retreats on learning to host retreats because she wanted to have all of her content planned out before even marketing the event. She was feeling nervous about whether it would deliver the transformation she wanted. Would she know what to do and what to say to make this happen? 

 

Helen came to retreat to get the clarity she needed and what she discovered was that the level of structure that she kept trying to create made her feel suffocated, and it didn’t bring out her best self. 

 

Some part of her from the past (hearing other people teach, watching what other people were doing) said, in order for what I’m offering to be real, she needed PowerPoints, workbooks, exercises, and agendas. What she discovered is that’s not how she is built to operate. 

 

Even though we did give her some structure, setting her intentions for each day of her retreat and what the transformation would be for the client from Day One to Day Two, Day Two to Day Three, we didn’t plan everything out in the way that she had thought that she would. In fact, we ceremoniously declared that that was NOT what she was going to do because that does not make her, her best self. 

we began talking about structure and how it supports you being in flow within your business, and one of the women started to panic.

How much structure do you need? Most people are confused about the amount of structure that will make them feel secure. They actually set themselves up to stop themselves from moving forward because of whatever their belief is about structure.

 

On the other side, in a recent small retreat that I hosted, we began talking about structure and how it supports you being in flow within your business, and one of the women started to panic. To her, the idea of structure meant no freedom. It meant she was going to be limited by these structures. 

 

By the end of the retreat, what she discovered was that limiting herself would bring her more freedom. Limiting her market would allow her to charge more, which would bring more abundance into her business, which would allow her more freedom of expression to travel and do all the things she wanted to do. It made it easier for her to be creative within the boundaries. 

 

A study shows that when kids are in a yard with a fence, they will explore the entire yard. When they’re in a yard with no fence, they stay right by the door. The structure creates more freedom to play and explore. 

Structure made it easier for her to be creative within the boundaries. 

What do we do when we don’t know how much structure we need? 

 

If you are thinking in your head, I need to plan everything. ONCE I get this developed, and that developed, jump over this hurdle, launch my group program, and figure this thing out, and everything keeps moving, chances are you don’t need all that. The choice to move forward with less structure will make you come alive. 

 

On the other hand, if you’re someone who is not wanting any structure, and you keep pushing yourself forward do the thing; no structure, fly by the seat of your pants; I’m in total freedom; I’m going to do a different program every week; I’m going to have a different audience every week and do something different; that’s going to be limiting to you, and you’re probably looking for some solid structure and support. 

 

If either of these are you or you don’t know I have a few recommendations.

  1. Start to question your assumptions about the amount of structure you need.
  2. Understand that knowing how much structure you need will not come from your brain. It’s going to come from Source, or your inner-knowing.
  3. Take our Sourced Magic Quiz.

 

The Sourced Magic Quiz shares the way your inner-knowing works or what I like to call your magic.

 

It can help you help to guide you to know what is right for you in terms of the amount of structure or lack of structure that you need to come alive.

A study shows that when kids are in a yard with a fence, they will explore the entire yard. When they’re in a yard with no fence, they stay right by the door. The structure creates more freedom to play and explore. 

We are taking this decision out of our head analysis because the head will crucify us either way. It’s going to judge and say, oh, gosh, why do you need all this? You should move forward. Or it’s going to judge and say, you know, stop trying to rush it. Take your time. Your head is always going to be accusatory in some way. 

 

But when you bring it into your magicwhat does your vibration say? Where does your vibration feel best? What level of structure makes you feel best vibrationally? What levels of structure make you feel best in your body? What level of structure lights your heart up because you get to be free to love and support your clients without letting in too much junk? 

 

What level of structure allows your channeling to reach the right audience? What level of structure will enable you to ideate and brainstorm for people who will take it and run with it?

 

By the way, I’m referring to the Sourced magics. Please take the quiz because that will help you understand what I’m talking about. There’s a level of structure that supports you in your magic without causing unnecessary procrastination or without having you leap without a net in a way that paralyzes you. 

 

Please let me know what’s coming up from you as you engage with this conversation. What level of structure feels supportive to you? What level of structure feels confining to you? Then bring that to your soul. Bring that to Source and say how true is this? Is something else available here for me? Let me know what you discover.

There’s a level of structure that supports you in your magic without causing unnecessary procrastination or without having you leap without a net in a way that paralyzes you. 

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